5 things mentally strong people don’t do

Many psychologists have come to the conclusion that in order to develop mental strength, one must adopt a three-pronged approach. It is about controlling your thoughts, behaviours, and feelings, the three work together. Quite often in the workplace, mental strength isn’t measured by what you are doing, but rather by what you are not doing.

How can you start to achieve emotional clarity? Read on to find out what mentally strong individuals are not doing in their approach to work:

1. They never relinquish their power or status.

People tend to give away their power when they lack confidence in themselves or their ideas. Always ensure you stand up for yourself and draw the line when necessary. By letting other people take control of your actions, they can then define your success and self-worth. It’s important to keep track of your goals and work towards them; once a task is completed you will gain confidence in yourself which will grow.

2. They don’t spend time feeling sorry for themselves.

Indulging in self-pity not only wastes time and energy in the workplace, but also hinders living a full personal life too! Feeling sorry for yourself can be self-destructive and creates negative emotions for those around you, and may hurt your working relationships.
If something doesn’t go your way, focus on how you can make it right next time and move on!

3. They don’t focus on things they can’t control.

“It feels so safe to have everything under control, but thinking we have the power to always pull the strings can become problematic. Trying to be in control of everything is likely a response to anxiety.

4. They accept they cannot please everyone.

Frequently, we tend to judge ourselves based on others thoughts or opinions, which is the antithesis of mental strength! When you are a people-pleaser you can often spend a lot of time thinking about fictional dialogues or wondering what they could have done better. Not only that, people-pleasers are unfortunately easily manipulated into doing things by others; sometimes it’s fine for others to feel disappointed or sad, really you cannot please everyone.

Dropping this mindset will make you a stronger individual and increase your self-confidence; you will thank yourself later for saying “no” once in a while.

5. They don’t expect immediate results.

If you want to reach your full potential, it is essential to develop realistic expectations and an understanding that success doesn’t occur overnight. Mentally fragile individuals are often impatient; by overestimating their capabilities they in-turn underestimate how long change takes, so be careful to not fall into this tramp: it’s important to remain humble, patient and optimistic at work, Rome wasn’t built in a day, after all!