How to Achieve Mental Clarity & a Good Approach to Work
Many psychologists have come to the conclusion that in order to develop strength regarding a sound work mentality, one must adopt a three-pronged approach. It is about controlling your thoughts, behaviours, and feelings: the three work together. Quite often in the workplace, achieving a sound approach to your work can be measured not by what you are doing, rather by what you are not doing.
So, how can you start to achieve emotional clarity and adopt a good approach to work? Read on to find out what mentally strong individuals are doing in their approach to their work:
1. Do not relinquish your power or undermine your status
People tend to give away their power when they lack confidence in themselves or their creative ideas in the office. Always ensure you stand up for yourself and draw the line when necessary, be it to colleagues or your subordinates. By letting other people take control of your actions, they can then define your success and self-worth, even if they’re below your position or ranking. It’s important to keep track of your goals and work towards them with your team; once a task is completed you will gain confidence in yourself which will grow.
2. Don’t spend too much time feeling sorry for yourself
Indulging in self-pity not only wastes time and energy in the workplace, but also hinders living a full personal life too! Feeling sorry for yourself can be self-destructive and creates negative emotions for those around you, and may hurt your working relationships.
If something doesn’t go your way, focus on how you can make it right next time and move on!
3. Don’t focus on things you can’t control
“It feels so safe to have everything under control, but thinking we have the power to always pull the strings can become problematic. Trying to be in control of everything is likely a response to anxiety.
4. Accept that you cannot please everyone
Frequently, we tend to judge ourselves based on others thoughts or opinions, which is the antithesis of mental strength! When you are a people-pleaser you can often spend a lot of time thinking about fictional dialogues or wondering what they could have done better. Not only that, people-pleasers are unfortunately easily manipulated into doing things by others; sometimes it’s fine for others to feel disappointed or sad, really you cannot please everyone.
Dropping this mindset will make you a stronger individual and increase your self-confidence; you will thank yourself later for saying “no” once in a while.
5. Don’t expect immediate or instantaneous results
If you want to reach your full potential, it is essential to develop realistic expectations and an understanding that success doesn’t occur overnight. Mentally fragile individuals are often impatient; by overestimating their capabilities they in-turn underestimate how long change takes, so be careful to not fall into this tramp: it’s important to remain humble, patient and optimistic at work, Rome wasn’t built in a day, after all!